PREPARING FOR FAMILY DISPUTE RESOLUTION (FDR)

​Preparing for Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) is an important step toward reaching practical, child-focused agreements. Taking time to think through your priorities, understand the process, and approach mediation with the right mindset can help reduce stress and lead to more constructive, lasting outcomes.
 

Focus first on the child

• What does your child need to feel safe, stable, and supported?

• How can both parents contribute positively?

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Prepare practically

• Know your preferred parenting arrangements

• Be ready to discuss schedules, holidays, communication

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Stay calm in emotional situations

• Pause before reacting

• Keep language respectful

• Plan how you will deal with stressful situations

• Use the mediator to manage difficult moments

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Present your best self

• Be cooperative and child-focused

• Show willingness to work toward solutions

• Avoid blame or criticism

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Questions to consider

• What routine works best for the child?

• How can we support consistency across households?

• How will we communicate moving forward?

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Important reminders

• Do not interrupt or talk over others

• Keep discussions respectful

• Focus on the future - not past conflict

• The goal is a workable plan for your child

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Mindset for success

• Be flexible

• Be realistic

• Be child-centred

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FDR works best when both parties remain focused on the wellbeing of their child and are open to finding workable solutions. With preparation, a calm approach, and a willingness to collaborate, mediation can provide a positive pathway forward for your family.